Dating a divorced dad with children
Children are adjusting too, and introducing a significant other too soon — or someone who is not a positive influence — can have damaging psychological and emotional effects.
Every mental health professional underscores the same rule: wait.
Kids begin to expect instability and will lose focus and attention in school work and their own friendships. Dads need to learn as much as they can about their significant other before inviting them into their lives.
Welch is a firm believer in waiting until fathers and their new partners are committed for a long-term relationship. And when dating, fathers should make it clear early on that they have children and they need to ask the right questions to learn exactly how their significant other feels about children.
On rare occasions there may even be last-minute cancellations of movie nights on account of a child falling sick.
This may seem difficult to accept, particularly if you have been looking forward to an intimate evening with your partner for the whole of the week.
Nancy Fagan, divorce consultant and owner of San Diego’s Divorce Help Clinic, says that six months is essential, but it must be six months of exclusive dating. “If any of the children are still in pain over the separation or divorce, dads will need to wait longer,” Fagan says.
If a father identifies with one of these situations, but they know their new partner is committed for the long haul and will be a good influence on his children, it’s best to wait much longer than six months to test the relationship on its own.
Read Related Article: “How To Introduce Your New Girlfriend To Your Kids“ Tara Lynne Groth is a full-time freelance writer residing in Cary, North Carolina.
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But when your partner is a divorced man with kids, things get a wee bit busier not to mention complicated.